A hui supporting violence free communities. 19-21 July 2024 – Horotua Marae. Featuring a performance of Shot Bro! by Rob Mokaraka Inspirational Speakers and an opportunity to share ideas.

SafeMan SafeFamily is about a man doing his own intentional heavy lifting to become a SafeMan with a SafeFamily.

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SafeMan SafeFamily follows a peer-led, professionally supported model. Our workers are qualified by experience.



Participants are supported to share their own story. They uncover their personal history and the cause of the violence and abuse they perpetrated. In most cases, this is due to their own experience as victims of violence growing up. They begin to realise and accept that their history has led to behaviours they don’t want to continue


Along this journey of uncovering, through the weeks of the SMSF Programme, participants are guided to discover tools, skills and different ways of communicating to be able to deal with difficult situations and conflict, and control their emotions.


They can then start on a journey to recover from the effects and impacts of violence, and learn how they can help share this recovery with others.

SMSF is a lifestyle choice to uncover (violence, abuse, trauma), discover (why it happened and how to heal), and recover (through learning, practicing, failing, trying, achieving, reflecting, and resting). This is a self-led lifelong journey owned by and accountable first and foremost to oneself. Vic came up with this expression based on his journey to stopping family and sexual violence, which spans more than five decades. He continues to uncover, discover and recover to this day, revealing more about himself and his trauma healing, and reinforcing more of the best parts of his life along the way.

It's 'normal'

for your partner to give you a fat lip for asking whether he got milk.
to hide from your dad after the All Blacks have lost.
for mum to wear a scarf in summer to hide the bruises on her throat.

This should never be normal.



Ending the Legacy of Family Violence

SMSF is a peer-led, professionally supported endeavour. This endeavour includes a SMSF hosted network of peers and professionals across Aotearoa New Zealand. This endeavour is enabled by a small team of peers and professionals who operate virtually, in-person and onsite across the country in formal and informal capacities. Vic initiated this endeavour to begin to organise and empower others to heal and to stop family and sexual violence, the way he needed it to be done for himself.


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