Participants are supported to share their own story. They uncover their personal history and the cause of the violence and abuse they perpetrated. In most cases, this is due to their own experience as victims of violence growing up. They begin to realise and accept that their history has led to behaviours they don’t want to continue


Along this journey of uncovering, through the weeks of the SMSF Programme, participants are guided to discover tools, skills and different ways of communicating to be able to deal with difficult situations and conflict, and control their emotions.


They can then start on a journey to recover from the effects and impacts of violence, and learn how they can help share this recovery with others.

New Zealand /Aotearoa has the worst domestic violence statistics in the developed world.
It's one of our most significant social issues.

Over 500,000 incidents are estimated to happen every year (80% go unreported), and it costs the country an estimated $4billion ($4,000,000,000) minimum every year (that’s at least $839 for every man, woman and child). And it’s not going away.

Every year, around 13 women, 10 men and 9 children die through domestic violence – an issue that becomes normalised within families, through generations.

It has to stop.

It's 'normal'

This should never be normal.

for your partner to give you a fat lip for asking whether he got milk.
to hide from your dad after the All Blacks have lost.
for mum to wear a scarf in summer to hide the bruises on her throat.



Ending the Legacy of Family Violence

SafeMan SafeFamily works to help Men end the cycle of family violence. We do this by supporting them to understand their histories and process it, to heal on the inside. They can then grow in their potential to become a SafeMan. 

We know that a child who experiences growing up in a violent home is more likely to replay the cycle of family violence. From Man to  Child – Child to Man – Victim to Perpetrator – Perpetrator to Victim.

“Uncover, Discover, Recover” is a SafeMan SafeFamily peer-led, professionally supported journey to help men understand the roots of their behaviour. They learn tools to manage conflict and how to use new ways of communicating that leads to them becoming violence-free.


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